The birth of a child is a time of great changes, and unfortunately, they do not always happen for the better. Deterioration of the quality of sexual life is a fairly common problem faced by the parents of an infant. According to statistics, during the second half of pregnancy and the first months after childbirth, 85% of women lose sexual attraction.
All couples dream that the state of the union and passionate nights will last a lifetime. But the reality is that significant changes occur in a woman's body during childbirth and lactation, and the hormonal background changes.
Here are some tips that will open a second wind open a second wind
for your intimate life and maybe it will sparkle with new colors:
1. Take the initiative into your own hands
Often, couples justify an unresolved problem by saying they do not know how to start a conversation about this topic or are afraid of another quarrel. It seems to them that it is easier to pretend that nothing is happening and stop having sex altogether than try to understand each other's feelings and thoughts. Imagine how much better your sex life would be if you weren't afraid to take the first step and finally try to understand what thoughts are bothering you and your partner. Sit down, take a deep breath, and decide to start this difficult dialogue calmly and without unnecessary emotions.
2. Love and accept yourself
Yes, now you don't recognize your body in the mirror. Who is this stranger looking at you with a judgmental look? Stop beating yourself up for the extra pounds, stretch marks, and scars you've acquired. Indeed, maybe you are not the same as before, but it is because you created a miracle — you gave birth to a child! Give yourself some time. The extra pounds will disappear, the scars will become less noticeable, and everything will be fine. A loving partner will want you anyway, especially as a beloved mother of his child.
3. Take a ride in the time machine
To restore the former passion — return to the time and state when feelings were at their peak, and, it was difficult to stop your adoration. As you know, during the candy-bouquet period, the relationship is only at the start of development, so every touch and kiss is unique. If you are missing the romance of the past —arrange a romantic evening that will slowly flow into an equally sensual night. Or remember your first sex and the circumstances of that evening. Maybe you should go to the same restaurant with your beloved and recreate the atmosphere of those passionate times? Try to remember these triggers, and the situation will quickly improve.
4. Open the door to a new experience
They say that everything monotonous is destructive. Any relationship needs a reboot sooner or later. If you stopped being a sexual object for your partner after giving birth and now your status is not a "seductress" but a "decent mother", then merely try to accept the new image.
Role-playing games can help to read off the boring routine and bring variety to your intimate life. Become someone else for several hours, put aside your superstitions, and surrender to the process. Predictability and boredom are among the main reasons for not having sex.
A fire in your eyes and body, joyful play, and a feeling of mystery, for sure, will awaken your desire.
Do not give up and act! You won't have time to look back, as your sex life will become even better than before the birth of a child.
